Tonight I had a disagreement with a friend that turned ugly. She said some things that I think she has wanted to say to me for some time. It hurt. But I want to hear the truth. So, this is an open call to anyone that wants to let me know how they feel about me. Do you also think I'm self righteous? That I push people away? That I imply all kinds of hurtful things? That I'm mean? Go for it. Let's do some laundry.
I think that any one, at any time, can be any of those things. Do I think you have faults? Yes, of course you do -- everyone does, and I promise that if you do or say something that hurts or offends me I will tell you at the time (or soon after) so we can work it out. But you haven't yet.
ReplyDeleteWow, I am having this very same experience minus the person coming clean and finally saying it. Lots of displaced anger and easy-targeting, as I can see it, but if she would USE HER WORDS maybe I'd learn what she really thinks. Unfortunately, it's rare that someone says it when called on to do so. It's more a fuse and trigger "conversation." :\
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